I was racking my brain for two days for something but every time I thought of a thing I ran into a wall of 'oh but I'm too tired to do that myself right now, I can't ask others' and that's really what it was.

Oooh, thanks for the rec list. Yes, sadly most 'feel good rom coms' also come with a helping of heteronormativity. Depends on the mood how much of it I can stomach. I've seen some of what you listed but not all so this is very helpful! Happy to be able to come back to this post when I next need to just pick something quick.