I think I need you to help me rewrite this post so that I can use it on my own LJ. I've just deleted a few dead comms and found a 'friend' I hadn't 'spoken' to for three years had deleted me much to my relief - cos I hate 'defriending' someone!! Like Trialia I am considering at least a partial move to Dreamwidth so I might have to ask her for advice with that. I don't really understand cross-posting! Will speak to you about it all soon.